Life Lessons

Don’t Be Another Flower

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I have a serious side. Hopefully, through this blog, you will see more of the real me and less of the hot mess.  I am not ashamed of publicly sharing my hot mess attributes, it is one of my quirks.  I laugh at myself daily.  I can pull some really good ones. But there is a whole other side to me that not many get to see.

Will I actually publish this post?  We shall see.  I guess I need to really start allowing myself to show all sides instead of obstructed views.  How else could you possibly relate to me?

So here goes…

I am sensitive.  I try to hide that.  I don’t open up much because I am not comfortable with a whole lot of people knowing my vulnerabilities. I don’t trust many.  I have been burned before.  By opening up to someone you trust and have them turn around and use it against you is truly heartbreaking. I have experienced that.  I have learned to carry a shield.  I use it every day.  Through laughter.  Laughter is my shield. It keeps people just far enough away but close enough to share a chuckle or a good laugh.

Over the years I have overcome being sensitive, somewhat.  I grew a thicker skin.  I learned to brush off things in life that truly hold no meaning to me.  I used to weigh myself down with worry. I lived in fear.

I worried that I would not be accepted by others.  I worried people wouldn’t like me for who I was.  It was as if I was not enough.  Not good enough.  I may come off as confident and strong.  But deep inside me is a flower that was almost left to die.  One who was afraid to blossom and be who she was meant to be.  One who would not turn her face towards the sun for fear of being burned.  One who was, or so she thought, perfectly happy in her little bubble, going through life tip-toeing around things so she wouldn’t cut her feet on any glass that lay in her path.  Shattered remnants of pain and anguish she so carefully tried to avoid.  Shattered remnants she wouldn’t face.

One day, something inside me turned.  Like batter does when a mixer is placed into the bowl.  Like the wind bends the trees when a storm is blowing in.  It was pretty gloomy that day.  I felt like I had no pleasure and no purpose in life.  I remember stopping to pray and asking God for His guidance.  His whisper.  Anything to let me know what I was supposed to do.

My book, Such A Pretty Face, will debut soon, and through writing it, I have faced and conquered each and every fear.  But also through writing it, I found my purpose and my meaning in life.  We are all put here for a reason.  That I truly believe.  We aren’t meant to sit in the dark and hide.  We aren’t meant to lick our wounds and feel sorry for ourselves.  We are meant to RISE UP, unafraid and follow the path that God has chosen for us.

I have finally figured out I was meant to be wild.  Difficult to find, meaning I am not meant to be a doormat for every person who crosses my path.  I am not meant to give and give so much that it depletes my own soul.  So much, that I put myself and my needs on the back burner.  That’s not healthy.  I was robbing myself of a fulfilling life.  I was robbing myself of happiness.  Of content. Of knowing I am worthy of all good things this world has to offer.  I can still help others, that I will always do.  But what I will not do is deplete my savings of inner peace.  I had to work hard to push past the pain and pull the sunshine out from behind the clouds.  I had to restore my negative balance and make it a positive one.  Make it abundant.  And, I pray each day I will keep it.

Don’t allow the pretty to be picked from you.  The parts that people want.  You can give too much pretty and then be left to die.  Do you.  DO YOU FIRST, then go on and help others.  Make sure you make a positive impact on every human being you encounter.  Make yourself unforgettable.  Be sincere.  But most of all, be you.  BEYOUTIFUL.

I will not be another flower, 

picked for my beauty and left to die.

I will be wild, difficult to find, and impossible to forget.

– Erin Van Vuren

 

 

 

 

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Christyisms

Pumpkin Spice Is Not So Nice

I have a hatred of pumpkin spice.  I loathe it.  I brace myself every year when the calendar flips to September.  It’s like a whole new world of crazy unleashes and with each passing year, it gets crazier. To the point of being obscene.

Don’t get me wrong, I like pumpkin.  As in pumpkin cheesecake, pumpkin scents, pumpkins on my porch signalling Fall has come arrived.  I love Fall!  Everything about it. I eat one slice of pumpkin pie per year.  On Thanksgiving.  That slice of pie has a tub of Cool Whip topping on it, too.  That’s called living, folks.  It’s all about the whipped topping.

Need a little spice in your life while practicing safe sex?  Slap on a pumpkin spice condom.  You’ll really spice things up in the bedroom.  Bitch, please.  Bring a pumpkin spice condom anywhere near me and I’ll be sure that your “pumpkin” not only gets carved but that your seeds will be roasted.

Want to attract the man or woman of your dreams?  It’s simple!  Just swish a little pumpkin spice mouthwash around for a few minutes, and voila!  You’ll attract the person you have always dreamed of.  Not.  More like you’ll attract a person with a weird fetish of rolling around in spices as foreplay.

There are doughnuts, cereal, drinks, meats, candles and coffee creamers, oh my!  When will it stop?  Who sits around a boardroom table and decides some lunatic wants pumpkin spice in their bratwurst?  Apparently, a lot of people do, or these companies wouldn’t be producing products like this.  If you eat bratwurst that is flavored with pumpkin spice, we can’t be friends.  Bratwurst only requires a little mustard and maybe some saurkraut as an added bonus.

If you love pumpkin spice and live for the season, good for you.  I make no judgements.  We all have our own preferences and likes.  Go get a latte on a cool Fall morning.  Enjoy every last drop.  But this pumpkin spice everything is a little out of hand.   You can’t go anywhere without seeing it advertised on any billboard or fast food restaurant sign.  It makes me want to start smashing pumpkins.

I better put some bail money in the bible, I might need it if I start on a smashing pumpkins spree.

Y’all gonna make me lose my mind, up in here, up in here.

Pumpkin spice season makes me feel a little Octobery, like I want to visit a pumpkin patch or murder someone.

Please.  Stop.

 

Christyisms

And So It Begins…

I guess this is the part where I introduce myself. Where I tell you who I am, what I am all about and what the heck I am trying to accomplish. There are two words that can sum me up pretty easily. Hot and mess. Hot mess. That’s me. I go through life like the pink elephant in the room. I really shouldn’t be left unsupervised.  But they claim I am an adult now.  Go figure.

Controlling my tongue is not a problem. It’s my face that needs deliverance! Ok, so maybe that isn’t exactly true. I do tend to say what is on my mind. At times, holding all this sarcasm in can physically hurt. It’s a sense of relief when I can allow my mouth to spill out what my mind is thinking. But then there is always the chance that I have offended somebody. I don’t mean to, because sometimes the truth does hurt, and the way to tell someone they are being an asshat is delivered more gently through humor. Right? Just shake your head yes.

I guess I am not accomplishing much with the introduction, am I? Since I am completely certain you are waiting with bated breath, allow me to go ahead and dish the dirt on myself. Completely. Well, let’s not get carried away. Baby steps, folks.

So let’s start with a little about me. I am forty-six years old, as much as that number seems to be escalating and quickly, I am actually thankful I can say I am forty-six. It’s a privilege. Not a birthright. And, I figure the longer I live, the more people I can piss off or entertain.  You decide.  I am also quite certain there is a pretty good chance I’ll end up being one of those senior citizens who bite people randomly.

I hate pants.  I love wine.  I can kill you with kindness or sarcasm.  Pick your poison.  I am a mother of two grown children.  I am also a single mother to one grown ass woman I call mom.  The broad can drive anyone to drink.  You’ll hear more about her as time goes on.

My other children have left the nest and left me batshit crazy.  I love them, with all that I have in me, but there were times I wanted to drop kick them in ways the CPS would not have approved of.  Bless their little hearts.

Little pains in the asses they were, and still can be.  Don’t roll your eyes at me.  I just felt all the holier than thou parents sigh in unison.  You know you have wanted to do it, too.  You just won’t say it out loud.  You are the same parents who sit silently and judge mom’s like me while your Little Johnny is wreaking havoc on the neighborhood.  Just say it out loud, they drive you crazy.  You know it, I know it.  You’ll feel so much better.

How’s that saying go?  “Well-behaved women seldom make history.”  And, it’s true.  You can’t be all Mary Poppins all day every day.  How fun is that?  Tell the world, (and your children) how you really feel.  If they don’t like it, well they can pour themselves the bowl of Cornflakes you had planned for dinner.  Don’t do it for them.  That’ll teach em’.

Still with me?  Good.  I mean,  you must like torture.  Or you are just utterly amazed at what you’ve stumbled upon.  I hope so.  That means you will be back for more.  Or, you can go try to detox yourself and pray for me.

If you came here to be coddled and babied.  Back that bus up, Gus.  Not happening.  I pretty much tell it like it is.  I offer no apologies.  I will offer you a bitch slap and an eye roll when appropriate. Oh, and for free.  You’re welcome.

Oh, did I tell you I am writing a book?  Yes, I have been.  There’s no ending.  Not yet at least.  I can’t go into all the details, but there will be an ending.  It may come in crashing like a tsunami, but it’s gonna happen.

You’ll learn more about me as the blog develops.  My hope is to make you laugh, maybe even cry a little or scream “Uncle”. Maybe I will drive you to drink.  Or make you attend church to cleanse yourself.  Who knows? Get your panties out of the wad they are now in.  I believe in Jesus.  Sometimes Jesus wants to bitch slap me.  I know it.  Why do you think I choose to walk in a zig zag pattern and not a straight line?  So He cannot easily reach out and zap my ass.

I have so much in the works and in store.  I wish I could share it all.  For now, patience is definitely a virtue.  I don’t know what the hell I am doing.  But I am not afraid and I am not stupid.  Because wine.

Thanks for stopping by.  You can find me on Facebook at Breakfast at Christy’s.  I will link my youtube and Instagram accounts soon.  Lord help all of you.

Please excuse the mess.  Just step over things until I get situated.  Might be a bit.  Again, no apologies.  I’ll see you soon.

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